To The Isolated

I read a young woman's Facebook status the other day where she reflected on her life today compared to what her life had been like in previous years. "People don't call like they used to..." she wrote. I hit the love button and rallied up some words of encouragement to leave under her post. I kept scrolling and came across another young woman's status that pretty much exclaimed the same frustration with what I like to call the "you-ain't-useful-to-me-no-more syndrome" that so many people are infected with. I composed another few sentences of encouragement, posted it, and kept scrolling through the usual social chaos on my socially non networking sites.

The next day I found myself still thinking about these young women and their posts. I couldn't help but to think about my life as well and how I too find myself in the same situation they shared. I thought about these ladies individually. One is a an amazing writer and the other one is an entrepreneur legitimately running two companies. Both are in their thirties, hard workers, kind, and deep thinkers. We all have so much in common.

So what makes us not worthy of consistency in friendship?

Is there something we have done?

As an adult seemingly it shouldn't hurt you to see friends hanging out without you and you weren't even a factor when the invitations went out. It shouldn't hurt that your phone doesn't ring anymore because you are no longer needed. But unfortunately, it does in fact hurt. Even though adulthood and frequent independent woman catch phrases are used to camouflage basic human emotion, it doesn't make the experience any less painful.

I hate to use words like alienated because it has such a victimizing tone to it. I, along with these two women are actively sustaining our liberation through womanhood. However, as I confront my these thoughts I am always left with alienation being the descriptor. 

But here's the caveat, we have to stop giving other human beings so much of our headspace and access to power they do not posses. Easier said than done I know, but it's necessary. After taking a hard look at my life and everything that has happened so far I strongly believe that the alienation I feel is simply GOD placing me in isolation.

I'm isolated so He can protect me.

I'm isolated so that He can groom me.

I'm isolated so He can prepare me for the great things He has in store for my life.

Yes, in the meantime its going to hurt. I will feel lonely, used, frustrated, infuriated, and disappointed.

But I have never not had what I needed. I may feel lonely but I have never been alone.

Not once has GOD ever stopped blessing me in my isolation.

So in the meantime I will pray in times of despair but remain thankful that He thought enough of me to place me in isolation.

To anyone who may be going through this very same thing. You are not alone. 

Thank God for choosing you to be apart of the chosen few.

To the isolated.