I know I haven't told you the news but I recently was given the opportunity to write for Madame Noire. An opportunity that was orchestrated by GOD and manifested through you. I realize now that all of the posts I have made on this blog mattered. Though I was just using you as my personal virtual diary not caring really if people read you or not, people were actually reading and clearly liked what they had read. Who knew? I just want to say thank you. Thank you for letting me be me. I have written quite a bit and left it here for you to bare. I've dealt with heartache, successes, epiphanies, and dreams right here on this blog. I even pissed a few people off. Ce la vie. I didn't have to worry about MLA standards or run on sentences I just wrote for love of writing and you sustained that love. I didn't have to worry about an editor tweaking my voice. Every word was all authentically mine and that's why I will always cherish you. I promise I will at least leave a word here every now and then. You are my first love. You gave my soul a voice. Now I get paid for doing what I love and that in itself is a gift. I'm forever indebted to you.
Love,
Creme
A popular game with Elementary aged children is "I Spy." It's so interesting to see how much of a kick they get out of it while the teacher is only using it as a strategy to keep them cool, calm, and collected. During "I Spy" the designated spy says "I spy with my (insert eye color here) something that's (insert the color or shape of an object that's in the room here)." Those trying to figure out what the spy is talking about begin to call out things around the room that fit the description. Whomever guesses correctly usually becomes the spy and the game repeats itself. Easy enough right? I think this game is great for school aged children it strengthens observation and critical thinking skills. It even in many ways builds confidence. But I have found that adults are playing this game everyday especially on social media and honey, it's driving me bananas.
Social media is an ingenious way to stay connected with friends and family. It's also a tool you can use to network, share successes, and market your business and/or brand. Remember when Facebook was only for college students and if you didn't have a college email address you couldn't join? I was so happy to find people I went to Elementary school with and was a Student Ambassador with all having gone to college. Then Facebook unlocked it's doors and everybody and they Mama (literally) is on the Book. That to me is still not a bad thing. I have found so many people I have lost contact with over the years and have always wondered about. I am still looking for my Third grade teacher and have faith that Facebook will help me find her. But the trouble is once people have added you and begin posting their life moments the "I Spy" shenanigans begin.
I am a person who pretty much enjoys minding my business. However, I do enjoy some good tea if you are spilling. But for the most part I enjoy staying in my lane. But when you scroll down your timeline and people you follow have posted their business in what they feel is a vague way, you are forced to play "I Spy" with them and the mess of their lives. I don't want to see in my newsfeed you arguing with your man about why his socks and shoes are on the floor of another woman's house. I don't want to see your status where you are clearly reading or cussing somebody out but fail to mention their name. I don't want to see a thousand picture photo album of you and the very same people you say you can't stand. So because our brains are not equipped to just pass this stuff by or ignore it people are forced to discuss it, guess what is going on or decipher what you are talking about.
We need social media etiquette classes! First class is free but every time you slip up there's a penalty fee. Five or more slip ups you are restricted access for a month. What ya'll think? I have debated for awhile deleting social media sites like Facebook. I noticed a few of my friends leave and come back probably because they got sick of playing "I Spy." I've deleted people, changed settings, blocked and still things manage to pop up. In this day and age and especially as I am in pursuit of my life's goals it is not smart to not have a social media presence. With that being said join me for a brief moment in a social media peace keeping attempt. I compiled a very short list that will help us coincide in a peaceful, non Elementary school game sort of way:
1. Don't argue with your significant other on social media. Save that for home and have the cops on speed dial.
2. If you are cheating on your mate don't post pics, tag, check-in, comment under posts with the one you are cheating with. Please. Trust me it all goes down hill.
3. Stop reading and cussing people out without tagging them. If you feel the urge migrate to Twitter it's great for venting.
4. Stop talking about people if you are going to hang out with them and take pictures documenting your excursions.
5. Post more about your accomplishments, travels, kids, things or moments in time that make you happy. We want to celebrate with you!
6. Lay off the reposts of kids fighting each other and participating in sexual acts. It's despicable and diminishes your character.
7. Stop tagging yourself in locations that would lead us to believe you are in some sort of danger without an explanation (i.e. hospitals, police precincts, prisons, scene of the crime, the trunk of a car).
8. I'm not opposed to you taking pics at funerals. The way in which you document your loved ones funeral is your prerogative. But the moment you decide to post the selfie you took with a corpse please ask GOD to redirect your path.
I hope this helps somebody and we can live happily every after in social media land.
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